Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).
In September of 2007, I discovered that my husband had been having an affair. In the few seconds that it took for my husband to reveal his adultery to me, my life was shattered, my faith was severely shaken, and my heart was broken. Those who have not traveled through the maze of a spouse’s infidelity cannot begin to understand the level of devastation, despair, and desperation that such a betrayal thrusts upon a person. Being betrayed by the person you trusted more than anyone else is very traumatic. All of a sudden, you are dealing with feelings and thoughts unlike any you have ever had, and you do not know how to begin to deal with the enormous and profound pain that your spouse’s affair brought upon you. You wonder if your marriage can be saved, if you can ever trust again, if you can ever love again, and if you can heal. You have questions for which there are no answers. Despite the unanswered questions and the multitude of feelings you have, you know intuitively that your life will never be the same–indeed, that you will never be the same. Some part of you dies, along with your dreams, hopes, and plans for your marriage. You wonder if you will ever and can ever feel whole again. The task of rebuilding your life, of moving forward, and of healing seems impossible. You do not have a clue as to how to begin to do those things. You think that there is no hope. I have been where you are, and I am a living testimony that there is hope! Healing and restoration can come. You can love and trust again. You will not feel the pain, confusion, anger, and sadness forever. You can move forward in your life.
I started this blog and the affiliated website so that you, the hurting and desperate reader, will know that you are not alone. Many others have walked along the same dark, lonely, tiring, and twisting road that you are walking. I started this blog so that I can offer the same comfort, help, and hope that Christ offered to me during my journey. I do not claim to have all the answers, and I cannot offer you any guarantees. I have been where you are, and I hurt for you. The purpose of this blog is to help you in any way I can–to answer your questions, to let you share your heart, your feelings, and your thoughts with others who have walked a similar road and with others who are currently on the same journey. This blog is intended to be a safe haven and a community that offers encouragement, understanding, and compassion.